berk18;842119217 said:
Not calumnus, but I'm at least partially involved in the dialogue, so here goes: Fans don't want a negative experience, but when their team doesn't do as well as they'd like they want to be the first to explain why things went wrong. Some people will grab onto anything when they vent. It's a frustration thing. You're right that people here aren't out of the ordinary. That's why this is so easy to spot. The treatment of Longshore was just as bitter as the treatment of Maynard, and he didn't have a brother or character issues, so you'll have to forgive people who've been here for a while. We see the same thing over and over and over (and on other teams' boards), and it really doesn't matter what the player is actually like.
Players are certainly open to criticism. Fortunately, when a player breaks the law or does something that actually embarrasses the university, that information comes out. If a player does a lot of community service or whatever, he gets praised. Most players (and most Cal students generally) just kind of float along in the middle character-wise, but we shouldn't blast them because of that. Unless we have real information, everything's based on shadows and that's when confirmation bias really becomes problematic. Can you find anyone who's personally interacted with KA and found him disrespectful? I can find show you several people claiming the opposite. Has he ever said anything stupid on twitter, like some of our players? There are actually lots of places where bad character can come out. Did it for KA? Personally, I think that the way a player interacts with people in real life says more about their character than what we see from 50 rows up. If KA was doing stuff on the field that was out of the ordinary he must have gotten a lot of penalties, right? This actually reminds me of another fan favorite: Zack Follett head-butted a defenseless, helmetless player on national television, but we won 9 games his last year and he got a lot of sacks, so people here were saying that he should be a coach for us. KA, on the other hand, has character issues. I wonder why?
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I appreciate this: If calumnus had simply said this I would be fine. Without characterizing me and or others as haters, rumour mongorers, teenage gossipers or disrespectful people that should apologize, you said what you believe to be true. If we are misinformed or somehow mispercieved things then I do apologize. But it is hard to apologize when being attacked or belittled.
It may seem to folks who had direct contract with KA that these character concerns were motivated by negativity. But even if they turn out to be mostly unfounded, the reason for them could be positive. It is quite possible that some folks are so concerns about protecting the integrity of Cal football that they over-reacted to unsubstantiated rumours and/or misperceived some of the events of recent years. These same folks, of which I am one, don't believe that any one person is above the team and become upset whenever they think they see that occuring. They also don't care who it is and/or what they have done for the team. So, because I might be sensitive to that does not make me any more negative than someone who becomes upset at BI members who criticize a player and then shames or mischaracterizes them for it.
My point is that nobody is better than anybody else. Likewise, I hope I didn't imply that I was better than KA and ZM. My point was that I don't think they are better than anybody else either and shouldn't receive special treatment. If I offended in the process, again I am sorry. But I am not going to let folks with good intentions be attacked on this board just because somebody has made up a morality that justifies this. The problem with calumnus is that he is so angry about players getting criticized that he started losing perspective on what needed to be said and got into negativity itself. I'm sure that quite a few folks think he is justified as the integrity reflects more short term emotional reactions than reasoned ones. But I am not one of them.
As sick as calumnus admits he is about "attacks on players". I am equally and probably more sick at the way people us victimization to then attack in return. If I made calumnus into an enemy in the process, that is something I truly regret. All I was trying to do was point out how he was doing the same thing that he didn't like others doing.
Hopefully, your post will serve as an example for the future.
One thing I should say is that I really like the players and was fortunate to meet and talk to some of them in person at the reseating event in Febuary. It has become clear over time that the players put their heart and soul into every game last year. This includes KA and ZM. It is tragic for them more than it is for me as a fan that their efforts were so consistently at odds with what appeared to happen on the field. And it must have been heartbreaking by the end of the season.
I will definitely keep the lessons of that in my mind in the future as I watch games and root for Cal, the main lesson being that the players are making great efforts whether it seems that way of not. Despite what it may seem, I am not a results oriented fan. So it will just add to my appreciation to know how much sweat is going into the process.
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