bearister said:
okaydo said:
Nothing like a good looking woman that backs the party of good ole boys and sexism because you have to figure they have experienced some bad behavior based on the company they keep. They have to be morons or light in the self esteem department. Either that or they are wealthy and willing to put up with it or they personally have never experienced the bad conduct so they lack empathy for their sisters that have. Is there a term like Uncle Tom that can be used to describe this type of woman?
Part of the problem (of getting men to understand this) is that, although, for many women, even the extraordinarily stupid and clueless conduct (totally oblivious to the feelings and reactions of the object of his affections) which is a fair characterization of the conduct of Clarence Thomas, can be as deeply affecting as to be fairly characterized as soul shattering (and many gradations of denigration lower than that, all of which are at least hurtful), there are nevertheless other women who are (as one of the 1970s spiritual movements used to refer to it) "senior to it", i.e., they see through it, and therefore see the little evil monster twirling around in its own stupid juice as not threatening to their own self-esteem.
Of course, although such insight can help even against physical violence, physical violence (of any degree) is a good demarcation line, along with its brother, the position of power of the harasser to affect the women's life, career, etc, because of the harrasser's power position.
There are other women who have been so brutalized by any and all of the different aspects of the system of power imbalance that they accept it as their lot and as part of life and of their life - for example the wife of the guy who picked up a young woman hitch-hiker and wound up cutting off her arms at the elbows and leaving her in the desert to die (which she did not do). The wife characterized the relationship with her husband as being that it was proper for him to have the "dominant personality".
So, rather than trying to come to a solution in trying to understand personalities, it is probably better just to keep on pushing against this un-mitigated evil.
The fact that women are also capable of evil and of abusing power, is a separate subject. One might talk about it in relation to men abusing their power, but it does not at all play into the line against physical violence, or, for that matter, against accepting any system that denigrates the human worth of any person, or especially of any category of persons.
Jon Meacham thinks that "(it is) self-evident that all men are created equal" (obviously adjusted for gender) is the most important phrase ever written in the English language.